Show them their Roses and not their Thorns!

Show them their Roses and not their Thorns!

Often times, we tend to focus on what is “wrong” with a person and not on what is “right”. Not only do we do this in regards to other people, but also to ourselves. It’s time that we started to look at what is right. Energy flows where attention goes. The more you focus on what is “wrong” the more it will show up; and vice versa. Help heal the world and yourself, by pointing out the good.

Practice What You Preach!

Inspirational Quote #22Hypocrite – a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings

Despite what we want to believe about ourselves, many, many people are most certainly hypocrites. We state that others should do this or that, or not do this or that. Yet, we fail to take our own advice. One area where I noticed that I am a hypocrite is in the area of how I treat others and how I expect others to treat me. Particularly, in judging or speaking badly of others and taking offense to people judging or speaking badly about me.

We, as a people, have to learn to hold ourselves up to the same standard that we hold others. How can we ever become upset when someone judges us, if we constantly judge or have judged another? How can we ever be offended when someone mistreats us, if we mistreat or have mistreated another? How can we ever be angered by the knowledge that someone has spoken badly about us behind our back, if you speak badly about others behind their backs. Yes, we are special, but not special in a way that we can put out negativity and not expect to receive it back. We are not special in  a way that we can sets rules for others that we are not willing to follow.

I find that judgement is a huge issue for most people and most do not even know it. The judgment of the actions, choices, clothing, hair, shoes, etc. of another is our selfish desire to have control over them and to have them do what we think is best. People are entitled to do and choose as they wish, especially if it does not interfere with the life and happiness of another. Keep your eyes on your own paper and focus on you and yours! You do not know the plan that God has for lives of others or the path they must take. Your way might be right for you, but not another. People are not required to be and do the way we think they should. Develop the skill to let others be and refrain from passing judgment on them. Instead send them prayers and blessings! If we spend half the time and energy working on improving ourselves as we do judging and focusing on other people, the world would be a much better place.

Remember that whatever we give, we receive. Make sure that the energy you put out is loving and positive, for it will surely find its way back to you. Practice what you preach! Truly treat others the way you wish to be treated! Be a blessing today and everyday!

Take Action

I encourage you to refrain from judging or speaking badly about anything or anyone for a whole day. It may sound easy, but trust me, it is very difficult. This exercise will help you to become more aware of just how judgmental and negative you might be. Once you have conquered a day, try 2 days, then a week. Keep practicing and building until you are able to see only through the eyes of love and possess the ability to allow others to be and do as they choose.

Many Blessings!

“Remember to be awesome today!”  ~ S.L.

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Behind those Gray Clouds, the Sun is Still Shining!

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Good morning! Hope everyone had a great 4th of July holiday! My time off was awesome and very relaxing. However, it’s back to work for me today. It’s a raining day here in Ohio. Raining days used to bring me down until I realized that there is no such thing as a “gray” day. Behind those gray clouds, the sun is still shining. We just can’t see it.

Have a great day everyone and remember that even though there may be some gray clouds in your life, right above those clouds, the sun is still shining! The storm will pass. Stay strong!

Letting Go of the Past and Painful Experiences

Inspiration, Let GoWhat’s your story? What reasons do you have for being the way you are or for being in the position you are in? Does it hold you back or push you forward? What purpose does this story serve? In other words, what do you get out of it? Whatever the benefits are, if it’s preventing you from living up to your full potential; the cost is too high, the load is too heavy, and it’s time to let it go.

Sometimes in life we go through horrible things and live in unfavorable circumstances that cause us a great deal of pain. However, the real damage is done when we allow ourselves to get addicted to that story and tell it to ourselves (and others) over and over and over again. Being addicted to a painful story only keeps you stuck in the pain or the unfavorable circumstance.

It’s time to get unstuck from your story. It’s time to let it go for it’s just too heavy and it’s keeping you from moving forward and being the person that you want to be. Let go of the painful story and start telling yourself a more empowering story. Yes, you may have gone through horrible circumstances, you may have grown up in poverty, your may have been raised without a mother or a father, you may be a single mother, you may have been abused, etc; but it doesn’t define who you are. YOU DEFINE WHO YOU ARE!

According to Iyanla Vanzant, there are 3 steps to getting unstuck from your story.

  1. Tell the absolute truth and look at how you contribute to your pain. State the facts and speak the truth.
    Ex. The single mom sob story has held many women back from greatness, but being a single mom doesn’t prevent you from being great. The fact is that you are raising children without the benefit of a partner. The truth is that you are great and can do anything, be anything, have anything, go anywhere as long you believe and persist.
  2. Ask for what you want! Don’t just sit around accepting whatever comes your way.
  3. Get a vision! A vision will pull you forward!

“When you stop telling the old story, a new one will bubble to the surface!” Iyanla Vanzant

The Wonderful Team Member Readership Award

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It is my honor to announce that I have been nominated for The Wonderful Team Member Readership Award. Thank you Lidiya @ Let’s Reach Success for thinking of me.

The rules require me to nominate 14 other bloggers that deserve this award. My 14 nominees are as follows:

  1. http://createdcreateit.wordpress.com
  2. http://candibeeexperiment.wordpress.com
  3. http://helpmemakemoneyfromhome.wordpress.com
  4. http://projectlighttolife.wordpress.com
  5. http://healthysoulexpressions.wordpress.com
  6. http://lalaanaomi.wordpress.com/
  7. http://awesomeashild.com
  8. http://meboucherblog.wordpress.com
  9. http://leaplikeafrog.wordpress.com
  10. http://themotherroot.themotherroot.com
  11. http://bodyloverevolution.wordpress.com/
  12. http://theamazinglifechallenge.wordpress.com
  13. http://jjbegonia.wordpress.com
  14. http://calvinbender.wordpress.com

Nominees, if you accept, the rules require you to display the image and link back to the person who nominated you. Also choose 14 other bloggers that deserve this award.

Congrats and thanks again to Lidiya @ Let’s Reach Success for nominating me!

The Power of Self Talk – What are You Telling Yourself?

The Power of Self Talk - What are You Telling Yourself?

Why is it that we are our own worst critic? Why is it that we speak to ourselves in ways we wouldn’t speak to our worst enemy? Negative self talk is the culprit of low self esteem, self doubt, lack of faith, fear, and so much more. Put an end to this by becoming more aware of the way you speak to yourself. Learn to speak to yourself the same way you would speak to someone you love. Learn to be your own biggest cheerleader. When you do good, praise yourself. When fall down, encourage yourself to get back up and try again. When you think you can’t, remind yourself that anything is possible. When you worry, command yourself to have faith.