What’s your story? What reasons do you have for being the way you are or for being in the position you are in? Does it hold you back or push you forward? What purpose does this story serve? In other words, what do you get out of it? Whatever the benefits are, if it’s preventing you from living up to your full potential; the cost is too high, the load is too heavy, and it’s time to let it go.
Sometimes in life we go through horrible things and live in unfavorable circumstances that cause us a great deal of pain. However, the real damage is done when we allow ourselves to get addicted to that story and tell it to ourselves (and others) over and over and over again. Being addicted to a painful story only keeps you stuck in the pain or the unfavorable circumstance.
It’s time to get unstuck from your story. It’s time to let it go for it’s just too heavy and it’s keeping you from moving forward and being the person that you want to be. Let go of the painful story and start telling yourself a more empowering story. Yes, you may have gone through horrible circumstances, you may have grown up in poverty, your may have been raised without a mother or a father, you may be a single mother, you may have been abused, etc; but it doesn’t define who you are. YOU DEFINE WHO YOU ARE!
According to Iyanla Vanzant, there are 3 steps to getting unstuck from your story.
- Tell the absolute truth and look at how you contribute to your pain. State the facts and speak the truth.
Ex. The single mom sob story has held many women back from greatness, but being a single mom doesn’t prevent you from being great. The fact is that you are raising children without the benefit of a partner. The truth is that you are great and can do anything, be anything, have anything, go anywhere as long you believe and persist. - Ask for what you want! Don’t just sit around accepting whatever comes your way.
- Get a vision! A vision will pull you forward!
“When you stop telling the old story, a new one will bubble to the surface!” Iyanla Vanzant
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